How a miscarriage effected my being pro life

I had a limited knowledge of pregnancy. I wanted to know what had happened. I started by googling things like "Are 22 week fetuses always born dead?" and was surprised to find out that many were born alive and lived for short periods. I wondered if Paula's baby had lived for seconds,minutes,or hours. I was disappointed to find out that doctors often did not try to help babies of this age survive because they were not yet "viable" I saw some posts saying doctors didn't even consider these babies alive even though they obviously were. How could the age of viability change/improve with medical improvements if fetuses somehow magically became babies by a particular week?? I saw youtube videos of 22 week old fetuses. The babies had all the body parts of a normal full term baby. They could feel and behaved like babies. The only differences were the undeveloped looking eyes and the odd looking colors to their skin. Until this point I had no idea babies this young were so developed. I googled around more and discovered articles and science documentaries like "In The Womb" showing that the baby was tiny but well developed by just 3 months(12 weeks) into a pregnancy. I saw some articles saying babies of up to 5 or 6 months of age were "aborted" Some family members had had abortions and regretted them so I knew abortions could not be a good thing. I was always pro life but in a more abstract sense at first. I read more from all different sources from all different sides of the argument. Abortion disgusted me(and of course still does). Late Term abortion is even worse. Why would people invent medical technology to destroy a life instead of protect it?? Paula was in a grieving process for many months. I wanted to know why she was so attached to a baby she hardly knew. I happened to find Silent No More and other similar websites. I saw the kind of emotional and physical term oil women went through after abortions. Their babies had to be alive. You cannot grieve something that was never alive. If Paula could be going through so much pain over a natural miscarriage, grieving an abortion had to be so much worse. A miscarriage is a natural death that you often can't do anything about whereas abortion is purposefully deciding to destroy a life by ripping and torturing it to death just because you think that life is not worth living, or that life is inconvenient. They are not the same thing. Abortion truly is a war on women. A bond between a mother and child is forever. Destroying that bond effects your life forever. It is not an "easy fix". 

Mind you that I was not a person of faith yet so all my research at the time was just my scientific curiosity over pregnancy, fetal development and miscarriage. I believe you can reach people of faith with the faith angle when they are people of faith but for people who are not of faith there is more than enough evidence in science to support the fact that the unborn baby is a living member of the human species and that in most cases (except for very extreme medical emergency) the risks of abortion to the women WAY outweigh any possible benefit.  In my case I just needed a personal emotional experience to peek my interest in seeking the truth. Thank you my friend.